Earlier an online friend mentioned “being addicted to their PlayStation 4.” I asked, “Addicted to the system, or you like the idea of being able to talk to people online?” After a minute, they responded, “it’s the people, not the game.”
This is one question a lot of Anti-video gamers should ask – “Is it the game or the community?” Reason being is because there’s countless times where gamers feel connected with others online; yet don’t feel the same with people in person. Here’s a list of the same, tired reasons anti-gamers use:
Waste of time/money
No contact to the outside world
Because Fox News said so
Responsibilities aren’t being met
Fox News said because you will shoot up your school/church/random gathering
Grades aren’t as high as expected
You will never make money off gaming
Do something more constructive with your time
For example, if you’re a parent, and you notice your child(ren) are online all the time talking to other people, the right question to ask is “what do your online friends have that the people in real life here don’t have?” This does 2 things:
Gives your child(ren) a chance to think about what they like about their online friends
Gives you the opportunity to learn about their hobby, as well as knowing they’re communicating with other gamers like them.
If you’re the gamer who enjoys online communities, be prepared to answer mundane questions regarding playing online. Growing up I like gaming because it was my escape from the idiots at school, and also kept me out of trouble. The few times I did “venture out” I ended up regretting hanging around people; not because I lacked experience, but because there wasn’t anything for me at the end of the day outside excessive headache. Also the idea of saving came into effect, yet again “go outside” meant having to spend money I didn’t have.
If you’re the naysayer against gaming, first you need to really find what you don’t like about gaming in general. Don’t let the media, Hollywood, or other forms of media influence you into hating something you lack knowledge of. If your child likes Fortnite PvP (or Battle Royale), ask the right questions. So they’re inside; do you know where they’re at when you need them? Are they harming anyone? Are they doing good in school/college? Are they employed and being a positive asset to society? Then what does it matter if they sit in front of a screen for hours on end? Oh it’s unhealthy for them? Says who? The media? Why do they say it is? Some random study from a no name doctor said so? Really?
I’ve also experienced people with unplanned families cry against gamers as well; saying gaming is the reason why they’re still single/lonely (yes, there is a difference), and they need to go outside to meet others. No logic behind their reasoning, just running their mouth just to run it. So it’s our fault you decided on making unplanned children while the rest of us were smart enough to bypass potential headaches?
Here’s another situation I’ve ran across –
X – Go somewhere and interact with people!
Y – There’s nothing here for me to do, or go.
X – That’s no excuse! Your friends and people your age can go, therefore you go!
At some point, gamers (myself included) were limited on places to go and be ourselves. Because other people found something they like, means so does everyone else. Reminds me of a quote from Fight Club:
Now, flip the conversation –
X – I want to go to Z video game conviction. Want to go? Or There’s a convention I want to attend. What can I do to make sure I can go?
Y – Why would you want to waste your money on that?! No!
With this example, X wants to go to something they like, and because Y (being parent/guardian, spouse, or friend) doesn’t agree, no is the initial first response. No logical reason; no constructive input; not even some sort of compromise; but just a flat out no.
Situations like this is why people keep to themselves, and/or resort to online because you can’t take away their safe zone. Even if someone/thing restricts online access, there’s still offline moments they can attend to. Take away all electronics; there’s still books, art, music, and at times sleeping. With enough drive, gamers will find a way to reconnect to be with those they feel most comfortable with.
In short, if a gamer enjoys the online company, and isn’t bothering anyone in a negative manner, let them be at peace. If you’re the anti-gamer person, maybe it’s you who should rethink your priorities – not them.